Of all the signs in the zodiac, Geminis get a bad rep. Dating-wise, they’re known as charmers, flirts, sometimes geniuses, often confusing, and frankly, perhaps the primary fuckboys of all the signs (sorry, Geminis). It’s a mixed bag! So, in honour of Gemini season, here’s some advice on what makes them tick. Are Geminis actually always playing games, or are they perhaps just misunderstood? Most likely to flake, but also one of the most fun when they do appear, they are enigmas and it will always take a little bit of strategising to make them stick around. Here’s six tips that could help you navigate the minefield that is dating a Gemini – good luck.

TEACH THEM SOMETHING

Geminis value intelligence, and want to be intellectually stimulated. Being genuinely interested and interesting will get you far with them. Have your own passions, topics, expertise that you’re excited to talk about – especially things they don’t know. Impress them with your genius. Your brilliance attracts the Geminis in your life, and keeps them coming back for more.

DON’T REPEAT YOURSELF

For Gemini, hell is old information. Having the same conversation multiple times (or listening on loop while you rehash the past again and again) will make these easily distracted people bolt for the door.

KEEP THINGS LIGHT

Geminis are curious and chatty, but they may not want to dive into the depths with you until they really know you well, or feel they have a good reason to. Conversation doesn’t have to be superficial per se, but outlooks that feel dark or fatalistic might not hold their attention, and will give them a reason to take their eyes and ears elsewhere.  

BE (OR SEEM TO BE) TAKEN

Gemini likes to keep it interesting and to many of them that means being (at least slightly) unavailable. Even if it irritates them, making them work to earn your attention away from other potential suitors early on can actually build your bond and their appreciation of your value in the long-run.

BE A LITTLE BIT KINKY

Geminis like creative, interesting sex, especially when the experience feels new to them. They’re curious creatures. Sex as fun, entertainment, or discovery appeals to them the most. ;)

DON’T BOX THEM IN

Gemini is a mutable sign, meaning they change a lot, or need to go with the flow. This is enhanced because they are also represented by “the twins”, and known for having at least couple versions of themselves. Rather than resisting that, and trying to make them be just one thing, maybe just gather up all their different selves and bring them on a field trip. Allowing them to be a bit of a shapeshifter (and sometimes inconsistent) can actually make them feel more like themselves. Be spontaneous with plans, habits, desires; it will go a long way toward making them happy.

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