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Erika Hunt Me Catch Me Eat Me
Erika hunt me catch me eat me

How much sex do porn stars want to have off-set?

We speak candidly with a selection of the adult industry’s actors, actresses and directors about how they creatively express their sexuality when nooky is their 9-5

For the average sexually inclined person, living out fantasies and taming sexual urges is pretty straight-forward – if there are two consenting adults DTF, it’s a go. And it’s perfectly permissible for singles who are into a bit of self-love to have a wank to calm their flutters. The warm heights of a passionate screw and the goodies that come with it are incomparable; healthy, genuine, beautiful sex is one of life’s most delicious privileges.

Working in front of and behind the camera in the adult film industry can be testing for a natural libido. You’d think those creating erotica for the masses couldn’t have it sweeter – fucking all day for a profit must be the greatest trade ever, right? Yet being side-lined by the rest of society and its ‘conventional’ careers isn’t the only hurdle faced by adult film stars. Watching and partaking in orchestrated sex has the potential to disconnect some from the very cores of sexual hunger and its perennial mysteries. Away from the crotch-driven cameras, compulsory condoms and de rigueur desire, when it comes to the IRL sex lives of porn stars, erotica directors and the cast and crew in between, intimate relationships are put to the test.

Pro at being naked on computer screens, ‘glam-core’ porn actor and model Jay Smooth finds working in the industry even more of a turn-on in the off-screen bedroom. For him, shagging on camera for work only makes him want to get close with his IRL lover all the more. Though not full-time – Smooth also lends his seductive blue eyes to acting – he digs following a day on a porn set with ‘unwatched’ sex at home. “Even though you’re performing in artificial acts, it still stimulates your body and your senses. Once you’re charged with this sexual energy and you’re coming home to your loved one, then you feel like you really want to get out all this energy,” he says. “(Porn is) a good warm up for the real thing.”

“People think working in the industry (makes you become) more detached. Of course, it can wear you down and tire you physically, but it doesn’t mean it takes your sexuality out of it. In my case, it’s completely the opposite.”

Yet, noting the professional nature of his porn acting, Smooth says with the acting elements, pleasure and comfort are limited, rendering sex on and off camera totally juxtaposing experiences. “There’s a huge difference between working on set and sex in real life,” Smooth says. “Sex in real life you have with someone you have feelings for. It’s on a mental level; it’s deeper. You explore a completely different area of sexuality.” Of course, attraction isn’t a guarantee when signing up for a porno, and contrary to the dudes who think porn stars get to fuck people they want all day, that’s untrue. Sometimes you have to get it up for someone you really wouldn’t IRL.

“(Porn is) a good warm up for the real thing” – Jay Smooth

Still, there are work perks – other actors that do, genuinely, get Jay going. “There are some other performers I really like to work with because we have good chemistry and understand and trust each other, which makes it easier,” he tells me. It’s unproductive to be hyper attracted to co-workers, though. Smooth says if he enjoyed having sex at work too much he, “wouldn’t be able to perform and deliver because I’d be too much into (the) enjoyment and that wouldn’t allow me to do it for hours.” He adds, “I have to balance it out – get myself stimulated and excited but be in control. That requires the training of your brain and (a) connection to your body because it’s challenging.”

Accompanying the nascent sex positive, female-oriented erotica currently sweeping the adult film universe, we’re witnessing more genuine pleasure on-screen, in comparison to cheap quickies void of intimacy. This creative renaissance of smut has ignited the female orgasm agenda and reinforced the need for porn realism, with legitimate sexual alchemy key to forming decent dirty movies. But how do its actors feel?

Well, according to Erika Lust, the erotica connoisseur behind feminist porn site XConfessions, making movies that get the planet’s genitals off doesn’t always translate to the demise of interest in sexy stuff. In fact, the opposite can be triggered. The Swedish director, tells me working in porn can mean extra creativity in the bedroom. “The more you are (a) connoisseur of something, the more you enjoy it – it's like foodies and gastronomy,” she quips. “Of course, sometimes after a long day of shooting, if something has aroused me more than expected, I want to have sex, and sometimes the shooting is so exhausting that when I arrive home I just crash.”

Lust also reckons working behind the scenes can have tremendously positive effects. For her, filming great people fucking has stimulated her senses – not just the sexy ones – for the better. “It’s obviously a myth that people who work in erotica are ‘at it’ 24/7, but, personally, I find that making erotic films can be inspiring at times. And on other days, I don't want to take work home with me.” Similarly, working in an erotic business has helped Lust become even more progressive about a subject still treated in many places as taboo.

“(It) makes you feel more free about sex – and by that, I mean curious, creative, open-minded and self-confident.” She adds, considering she’s making pornos in a society that runs on the fear of speaking about sex too loudly and the anxiety that our compulsions – even the least licentious – are to be hushed. “Working in adult films may help to see sex as a natural, normal thing, that everybody does.”

Of course, each individual is influenced differently, and where there are those who lose all sense of desire from working in adult movies, others find having an XXX career path evermore rousing. Lust tells me, all porn performers are different. “Some are in stable relationships, some are not. There's no doubt there's still some stigma surrounding adult film performers, and it really annoys me. Some (porn actors) try new things in my films they haven't done before, so they have found themselves inspired by working with me.”

But for some, losing the hot ‘in the moment’ buzz, the immediate poison, is the divisive factor between real and artificial intimacy. Vex Ashley, queen of capturing fucking on camera, who makes “films with sex and cinema” with her creative pornography project Four Chambers, argues, “there’s nothing like the suspense or anticipation of not knowing if you’re going to fuck, how it will happen, or if they’re into you. The build up for me can be the hottest bit and some of that’s lost on set where everything’s mostly planned out.”

Unlike adult actors and directors working in the mainstream ‘cheap porn land’, Ashley’s expertise lies in erotica that’s more artistic than regular porno – it’s creative, adventurous and mystical, what she calls “magical realism”. Starring in and orchestrating each carefully crafted Four Chambers flick, Ashley is openly liberated and unapologetic about her occupation, despite public stigma.

As for every day affinities, working in porn doesn’t have to hinder personal relationships. “It’s helped me to detach from the idea of sex as a possessive, limiting act. Finding other people attractive and fucking them doesn’t have to detract from the intimacy of your other relationships. Making porn can be a catalyst for having relationships built on honesty and good communication, you have to talk about everything.”

Ashley won’t deny burning out is a possibility, though. Day after day of being fucked in front of a crew can be shattering. “Sometimes if you spend all day thinking, theorising, performing sex professionally, it seems like an effort or a bore to actually do it for fun,” she says. “That’s when you need a break to reset.”

It’s easy to palm off other forms of the venereal, besides actual intercourse, that can be huge turn-ons. Ashley tells me: “I swear someone making heavy eye contact with me across a bar turns me on way more than watching a video (of) someone getting railed.”

“Sometimes if you spend all day thinking, theorising, performing sex professionally, it seems like an effort or a bore to actually do it for fun. That’s when you need a break to reset” – Vex Ashley

Pro-porn, anti-censorship, whatever your moral stand-point on erotica is, there’s no denying adult content for all of us is never like the real deal. While it’s clear porn stars evidently don’t always have their love lives destroyed, nothing channels the raw, spiritual tension of a mighty fuck when it’s with someone you don’t fancy, requires paperwork and is captured with a giggly intern in the shadows. And Ashley analyses this perfectly. “I feel like, for me, intimacy is less about acts and more about how much you really like someone as a person,” she tells me.

“I think good conversation can be incredibly intimate – you can have a very un-engaging, functional conversation with someone who doesn’t interest you or excite you or you can have those conversations where you just click and you want to talk to that person all night. Sex is like that, it’s not the act but the person you’re doing it with.”